3 Ways To Win Trust FAST | How To INSTANTLY Be More Trustworthy Using Body Language

3 Ways To Win Trust FAST | How To INSTANTLY Be More Trustworthy Using Body Language

So, you walk into a room and you don’t know
anybody. Immediately your mind is thinking, oh, my
gosh like is anyone going to like me, should I just leave should I get out of here? Guys, take a breath, relax. In today’s video, three powerful body language
techniques that you can use to immediately send a signal of trust. Now, the three techniques I’m about to cover
may sound incredibly simple and that’s where it’s dangerous because we think, oh, I know
this information. That’s the thing is like we know a lot of
things, but we don’t practice them. So, using one is good, but using them all
together consistently, that’s where the power is at and where you’re going to want to train
yourself up. And at the end of this video, I’ll talk about
how to do that. The first technique to build trust is to show
your hands. Yes, you want to make it obvious that you
don’t have a weapon that you are not going to hurt this person. You are not going to curl them up into a fist,
so don’t put them behind your back. Don’t, you know, don’t hide your hands, don’t
put them down like this. What that does and it’s going back to our
brain, it’s the idea that, okay, this is a fight or flight. I know that sounds extreme, but think about
an extreme example. You get pulled over by the police, you are
you have someone that is, you know, questioning you. You don’t put your hands — you don’t reach
in here, what that does to them, okay, what’s this guy grabbing, what’s going on here. They are at heighten sense and they are looking
for a threat. Now, most people won’t say that they’re doing
that, but we are. In a sense we meet someone for the first time,
we are measuring them up, we’re trying to make determination how much time do I want
to spend is the value of this person. I know it sounds shallow, it sounds frivolous,
but this is actually what people are looking at what they are making a determination of
and you want to quickly show them, hey, I am no threat here, it is a pleasure to meet
you. And that’s why, you know, one of the reasons
you extend your hand out you actually make it very well-known, hey, I don’t have anything
to, hide in fact, here is my hand. Body language technique number two to create
instant trust gentlemen is to open yourself up. Basically, you’re exposing your soft tissue
area. Dogs do this all the time. Think about the dog rolls over it shows you
its stomach, it is not a threat and as human beings we pick up on this. A lot of guys they fall back into this habit. Yeah, they stand like this especially in the
back corner, you know, why isn’t anyone talk to me, why isn’t anyone approaching me. Because you look like you don’t want to be
approached. You are closing yourself off. When you want to meet people, well, you need
to open yourself up, you need to show you’re not a threat that in a sense you are being
vulnerable. Instantly, your trust level is going to go
up. Technique number tree to create real trust
is to have a genuine smile. Okay. There are fake smiles. Could you tell? [Laughs] Now, there are real smiles, you see
the difference in that second smile. That second smile I thought of my daughter,
Katya. And this morning she just loves to come up
and just give me a hug when I wake up in the morning. Every time she sees me it’s just awesome. So, you may have to actually think about something
else, but don’t fake smiles, people can pick up on it. It doesn’t use the same muscle groups and
people, you know, they’re like, okay, this is being forced versus a real sincere smile. Before I start everybody, I have to admit
I am just thinking of something that makes me happy that makes me laugh and then I get
into it. Because I kind of set the tone for myself,
I get those muscle groups going because I know here on video I can’t hide fakeness. I mean you guys can watch hundreds of my videos,
you will pick up on some videos maybe I’m a little bit off, but most of my videos I
try to approach with a sincere happiness positive attitude. You can feel that you can see it, and you
can bet when you’re meeting people for the first time their BS level detectors are really
high and they’re going to say, God, this guy doesn’t even seem sincere. You want to be sincere because all of a sudden
your trust levels are going to go up. All right, gentlemen, so those are the three
techniques. It sounds simple, right? But that’s where it’s dangerous because they
sound so simple that you don’t actually practice them and that’s where what you have to do. If you don’t practice this, you’re going to
show up to an event and maybe, yeah, maybe your work you’ve got three or four people
that you know really well, they all think you’re a people person, they actually think
you’re kind of funny you’re outgoing and you show up to this networking event and you immediately
close off. You you’re not used to it, you haven’t practice
being in the situations. That’s why you need to get out there, go to
your industry conferences, go out there and start meeting with people. Perhaps go to a bar, go to a club, go out
there maybe with some friends just so that you can practice and you can see, hey, am
I actually showing my hands, am I opening up, am I smiling genuinely. And, invite you to come out to Style Con in
Atlanta, Georgia where you can meet me, you can meet tons of body language experts people
that have really great social skills. You can see these people in action, how they
get up on stage, how they walk up to people they don’t even know and they’re able instantly
to build a connection that create trust by following these and tons of other techniques. Gentlemen, take this video, use it. I really want you guys not just to passively
absorb this information, but to find the strength to find, you know, go out there and practice
so that you can use clothing, you can use image, you can use style to get what you want
out of life. That’s it. I’ll see you in the next video.

100 thoughts on “3 Ways To Win Trust FAST | How To INSTANTLY Be More Trustworthy Using Body Language

  1. http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/gain-trust-body-language/ – Click here to read the article How To Win Trust Fast Through Body Language.

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    Video Summary:
    0:49 – Show Your Hands
    1:58 – Open Yourself Up
    2:36 – Have a Genuine Smile

  2. Ugh. Sorry. I've been following for a while, but I have to unsub. Too much click bait-y sounding titles with really loose ties to fashion if any. I get that it's hard to come up with new content sometimes, but I'd the video just not see it than it be something I don't want to watch. I feel like it's reducing this channel's value. I'll check back in a few months though 🙂 good luck on your videos!

  3. your first smile is just a smile not fake, second one I would say you're laughing not smiling . smile & laugh are different level of happy I think .

  4. MOST people dont even care IF the smile is Fake or Real there are scientific studies on that Topic and people can tell from like 23 facial muscles if a smile is Real or Fake

  5. RMRS, can you do a video about talking confidently in a second language? (i know that you did a video about talking/ speaking confidently and clearly and that it could be applied here as well but I think that this is a topic that many people would like to watch and to hear you out)

  6. Antonio,this is one of the best videos you ever made!!..The insight to the "behind the scenes" sort of thing when you prepare before you step in front of the video camera was great!!..I have to say,you do a really good job and I appreciate that you let us know things that would sound trivial to someone, but they are critical when it comes to understanding how you built this amazing channel! Keep up the good work sir!!

  7. Fantastic tips. Another one I would say helps a lot is noticing something about the person you're approaching, and taking a genuine interest in that thing during the conversation. Are they holding a book? Ask about the book, let them talk to you about it, listen to what they say. People like talking to people who let them talk about themselves.

  8. Will it be good if we try the first idea on someone that you like? Thanks for the clues… (if my english is not well in this message sorry for it from now I am not native speaker) If you can answer my question in at least one week, I will be very happy…

  9. And can I want something from you? If you understand or not I like someone that the someone is a little older than me. But our ages are not so big I mean, we are not adults that I'm at 8th grade and he is 10th grade. So if you have time, can you please record a video about "How to come better with someone that you like?". I wish you understood me.If you do not want to record a video about this question, can you give me some clues? If you want of course. Thanks for consider with my message…

  10. What if my teeth are crooked, should i still smile, would that be a negative thing to do, i know its not gonna look pretty but atleast id be genuine?

  11. Sir video for How to checking body language ,face read , and other questions is that how to find friends about best friend

  12. I became a fan of your channel after watching the video on how to tuck in properly. You make great videos. And believe me, this is first time ever I'm commenting on YT.

  13. Genuine smile! That's what most people lack, unfortunatelly. Great vid Antonio! I'm trying to show everybody in my surroundings the power of smile and the true magic of it.

  14. Antonio, your blazer is nice, and it's begging for French cuffs. That shirt, same color, with simple silver or mother of pearl cufflinks, and you have a winner.

  15. Square your shoulders up with the man whose hand you're shaking. An oblique stance signifies weakness or disrespect. Get that other shoulder in there and you'll see what I mean. BTW, excellent videos, Antonio. Fine job indeed. Glad you picked up a sponsor. Vincero (Sp.?) makes a sleek but masculine watch seemingly worth the price til you realize they're rated to 3 atmospheres. They seem quite a bargain for quality goods.I do not need any more watches, but if I did, I'd give that watch maker a go.

  16. Good advice – Posture is important too www.udemy.com/alexander-technique-introduction/?couponCode=ATFORME

  17. hahah my gosh.. that stylecon sounds to me like a place where all these body-language- pick-up-line- experts are gathering together and they all pull these tricks off on eachother trying to be very attractive and trustworthy….. HAHAHAH guys shouldnt you just get real jobs or something? xD im sorry i have worked too hard for these things…. pain in my back is too heavy to take these kind of glamour-men serious xP
    i even already feel gay for going to work with addicts and homeless people because thats a type of nursing

  18. I don't see a difference in your smiles, they both look fake, in the second smile how ever, you are trying harder to fake it, so it is sort of more appreciative 😉

  19. Instruction too complicated, 10 women wanted to take me back to their bedrooms in one day, I got offered 4 new jobs in one day, my arms tripled in size and I can now cook Michelin star dishes.

  20. Antonio is like the big brother i never had/met. I've been watching his videos for about 2 weeks now and I've already taken to step to be sharply dressed. No suits or anything but I've definitely turned my style up a level or two. thanks Antonio, you're the man.

  21. 1:10 what if the cop doesn't like you and pulls his gun on you ( -_・) ︻デ═一 ▸ (⊙_⊙')

  22. The thing I use to smile when a girl tells me a joke that's not smile funny is that video "banana slips on man"… I laugh every time

  23. Absolutly fantastic video, Antonio speaks in a very passionate and convincing tone. This makes each and every video a treasure to watch! Excellent channel!

  24. This is very basic and ignorant. Human psychology has evolved. And none is walking around smiling when they are sad either btw. Humans are not stupid. People are suspicious of the best smiles out there. The saddest looking people could hold the most compassion. Looks are not everything. It's only a first impression.

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